When the Bible says that something is “not wise,” it ought to cause us to really pay attention. In 2 Corinthians 10:12, Paul shows us that it is “not wise” to spend any effort in “measuring” ourselves or “comparing” ourselves with others. Doing so will usually make us either feel guilty or feel better. But what others do or don’t do is not our standard! Consider one application.
Sometimes we might say, “Nobody speaks to me at church.” But, rather than use that as my standard, do I myself openly, lovingly, intentionally speak to others at church? We might say, “Nobody invites me out to lunch.” But, do I invite anyone else out to lunch? We may say, “Nobody invites me over to their house.” But, do I invite anyone to my house?
God says, “A man who has friends must himself be friendly” (Prov. 18:24). Rather than measure out what we might consider the “unfriendliness” of others, let us set an example of our own in reaching out, engaging, fellowshipping, encouraging and bonding with our brethren. Such will bless all of us reciprocally!